The repeated invocation of marital dissolution as a consequence of disagreement or conflict constitutes a pattern of coercive control within a relationship. This behavior involves using the threat of separation to manipulate a spouse’s actions or opinions. An example of this is when one partner repeatedly states “I want a divorce” during arguments, regardless of the severity of the issue, thereby creating an atmosphere of instability and fear.
This dynamic is significant because it undermines trust and security, essential elements of a healthy partnership. Over time, the consistent fear of abandonment can lead to anxiety, depression, and a diminished sense of self-worth in the affected spouse. Historically, while societal views on divorce have evolved, using it as a tool for control has consistently been recognized as emotionally abusive behavior.